‘Groundhogging’, begone: 3 ways to break the cycle and date better

Groundhogging is the not-so-hot new dating trend that we’re all guilty of. Put simply, it’s the inescapable truth that we’re dating the same type of person, over and over again - and each time, expecting different results. It’s not working out. So why do we keep doing it?

If you want to date better this year, it’s time to break the cycle. Enter: Inner Circle. This offline-centric dating app knows that daring to do things differently is how great dates happen, and history is made. And how the groundhogging cycle is broken. 

Here’s what you need to know. 

Know Thyself (and thy type)

Socrates said it well; we’d argue we say it better. Start with reflection: what is your type?

It’s important to unpack the list of qualities you feel your date ‘needs’ to have. Amidst the perfectly valid, like shared values or common interests, we’d bet there are a couple of lurking non-essentials. Be honest: are height and hair colour really dealbreakers? 

No, we thought not. Make the most of rich profiles and filters on Inner Circle to dare to match with someone outside your comfort zone. So whether you’ve vowed never to date a joker, or always steered clear of gym-bunnies, mix it up. Dating is all about new experiences, and who knows where it might lead?

Variety is the spice of life

Gosh, we’re a cultured bunch. This quote may come from 18th Century poet William Cowper, but it’s never been more relevant to present-day dating. Ask yourself: are you always going on the same type of dates? 

That’s right; groundhogging isn’t just who you date - it’s how, too. If you’re stuck in a dating rut, here’s your chance to shake up the routine. Dare to do more than just dinner or drinks; escape rooms, exhibitions and art galleries are a’waiting.

In need of inspiration? Use the Discover tab on Inner Circle to browse a member-curated list of London’s coolest bars and restaurants. They’re the type of places you’ve always wanted to visit but never been able to find. And no need to worry about going alone. You can use the app to match with other members who want to go there too. 

Did a full 180, crazy

That’s right, Dua Lipa. We admire the commitment to breaking the groundhogging cycle, but it’s important to remember that you don’t have to change everything with your next date. 

Over-correction is a very real (and unnecessary) response. There’s no need to hunt down the polar opposite of your previous types; just stay open to meeting new people and trying new things. To help you on your way, Inner Circle screens all new members. So you can take a chance on something (or someone!) new, without worrying about scammers, spammers or fake accounts. We reckon Dua would approve.

Ready to wave goodbye to groundhogging? Sign up to Inner Circle here!